Purposeful Stories

July 2023

Love

Love is an intense feeling of affection. Love exists and appears around us in diverse forms. As love lies at the heart of the human experience, exploring different shades of this emotion can be gratifying in myriad ways. A loving and kind heart, they say, is prejudice-free.

Love knows no boundaries of race, religion, caste, creed, colour  or ethnicity. Join us to experience this powerful emotion of love and delve into its innumerable facets together….

Yes, all of us do understand that love cannot be restricted to romantic bonding between two individuals alone. Love should not be confused with possessiveness, too. This emotion can neither be caged nor controlled. It sets you free from the many shackles and liberates you to bring comfort and contentment. It also ensures compatibility and makes things happen in a miraculous fashion.

Apart from being an amazing feeling, love is a divine energy. In spiritual literature, we discover mystical love. The spiritualist form of love for the Creator, spiritual master and spiritual companion is incredible in more ways than one. Love also lies in the many seasons. And, as digital technology expands at an accelerated pace in the 21st century, perhaps the definition of love is witnessing a transformation of sorts. Simultaneously, as the culture of work in a multicultural surrounding is altering at a galloping pace, we start valuing the psychology of love at the leadership level. In short, love has many flavours. And the charm, as they say, lies in the details….

Seasons of Love

Jonathan David Larson, one of the leading American composers and lyricists, earned global recognition for writing the amazing lyrics for the musicals Rent, tick… tick… Boom! Though he died young at the age of 35, some of his moving songs remain immortal.

“Five hundred twenty-five thousand, six hundred minutes
Five hundred twenty-five thousand moments so dear
Five hundred twenty-five thousand, six hundred minutes
How do you measure, measure a year?

In daylights, in sunsets
In midnights, in cups of coffee
In inches, in miles
In laughter, in strife

In five hundred twenty-five thousand, six hundred minutes
How do you measure a year in the life?

How about love?
How about love?
How about love?
Measure in love
Seasons of love
Seasons of love…..”

Larson’s Seasons of Love song brings us to Barahmasa, an amalgamation of two words; ‘barah’ meaning 12 and ‘masa’ meaning month. The extraordinary paintings of Barahmasa—some of which can be traced back to the 16th century—encapsulate the essence of the assemblage of seasons. In India, spring, summer, monsoon, autumn, pre-winter and winter comprise six seasons. In the poetic genre of ritu varnan (depiction of seasons), the memorable verses of poets such as Kalidasa, Keshavdas and Bulleh Shah have motivated some of the Barahmasa paintings.

Meghaa Aggarwal in this riveting piece captures the real essence of the Indian seasons by exploring Barahmasa paintings in miniature art. The striking Barahmasa paintings portray the romance of changing seasons throughout the year. In autumn, the amazing maple (Chinar) tree sheds leaves as their colour turns crimson-red from original green. Many find the autumn season adoring. Similarly, when the morning breeze touches the rose plant in spring, the magic happens. There is enchantment in the monsoon rains. The enormous mountain peaks are covered with a blanket of snow during the winter season. Children living in the valleys discover love in making snowmen with the help of mounds of snow while using charcoal to draw eyes and nose; some others love the very sight of snowflakes touching the ground. Others enjoy skiing in the picturesque valleys of Gulmarg and Sonmarg in the Kashmir Valley while others head to the high altitude regions of Rohtang Pass and Solang Valley in Manali, Himachal Pradesh. It is the love for seasons and their interpretations that enable people to appreciate the flavours, aroma and feeling of changing seasons!

Love at Leadership

At Leadership levels, love means nurturing a culture of appreciation and collaboration. A happy workplace is the one where there is no crisis of acknowledgement. Marcel Proust, an acclaimed French novelist and essayist, once remarked “Let’s be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” 

With 21st century leadership we associate team work, compassion, empathy and love as essential attributes. The culture of work in a globalised setting is altering rapidly. Perhaps, the definition of love is also changing at a galloping pace. Some argue that performance and compassion at the workplace appear in conflict with one another, but love has the potential to change everything. How is confluence between performance and compassion is made possible?

A perception exists that the workplaces that are led by women leaders are empathetic, kind and performing better. Jacinda Ardern, the former Prime Minister of New Zealand, as a political leader, would often stir the political hornet’s nest by talking about love, empathy and kindness. She has won many a heart with her thoughts. Many from the new generation consider Ardern a role model.

“Kindness, and not being afraid to be kind, or to focus on, or be really driven by empathy. I think one of the sad things that I’ve seen in political leadership is - because we have placed over time so much emphasis on notions of assertiveness and strength – that we probably have assumed that it means you can’t have those other qualities of kindness and empathy….So I’m proudly focused on empathy, because you can be both empathetic and strong,” Jacinda Ardern told The Guardian in an interview.

Like in politics, women leaders ensure diversity and gender empowerment in the world of business too. At leadership levels, the emergence of women as strong leaders has transported the elements of love, empathy and kindness. One such woman leader is Nirupama Vellore Ganapathy—the architect behind Ad Astra.

As a business leader and industry veteran with over two-decades-long experience, she has played a central role in setting up multinational firms of international repute. In a multicultural and multiethnic locale, working across multiple geographies and coming into contact with different cultures of work has made her realise that “love plays a major and constructive role” at Leadership levels. As a woman leader, she believes that “compassion comes very naturally to women.”

Sharing her insights with Gnothi Seauton, Nirupama V. G. asserts, “A simple pat on the back of a co-worker telegraphs a message that there is someone who’s reaching out to you and appreciating your contribution to team work. Love plays a very important role in developing the culture of an organization.”

We are citizens of the world. As global citizens, people from multiple backgrounds bring in diversity, different cultures of work and different skill sets. Love enables you to appreciate this productive diversity.”

She is of the opinion that love at the workplace makes leaders recognise that people have huge potential and that a loved colleague and co-worker has 10 times more energy than the one whose contribution is discounted. “Love allows you to offer space to people to perform better and stay longer. A real leader’s job is to play the role of a facilitator. Love changes peoples’ lives. As a leader, there is no joy bigger than the realisation that you have made a positive difference to an individual and their families. The joy of seeing people and families grow cannot be expressed in words.”

Leaders across the globe are grappling with a serious question: Whether compassion and performance are in variance with each other? Is compassionate business or Love at leadership levels even possible in the 21st century?

Aditi Banerjee, co-founder Magic Billion, has the answer to these critical questions. Based out of London, Aditi established a reputed global talent management company in 2018 in partnership with her father Basab Banerjee. In 2019, she was conferred the prestigious Asian Woman of Achievement (Public Service) Award in London.

“Without love everything becomes transactional. More than compassion, I think love is passion. You love what you are passionate about. You are passionate about what you love,” Aditi Banerjee argues, adding that, “our entire leadership at Magic Billion nurtures passion. We believe in love and do not shy away from showing the real us. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness.”

Magic Billion taps the talent on track from many parts of India. As a talent hunter, the company offers support to international employers across industries—from manufacturing, hospitality, healthcare to Information Technology—to find the best talent in terms of excellence and dexterity.

As a business leader, Ms. Banerjee’s definition of love is distinctive. “For me, love would mean to build a company and a team which is creating impact, changing lives for good, and leaving behind something to remember; a mark.”

Modern-day leaders insist on the psychology of Love and seek a higher purpose and meaning in their roles. They often talk about the value of treating their co-workers as equals. Love enables business leaders to gain self-control and employ self-awareness to take the right calls. It is a sort of self-discovery. Love also helps leaders to control their anger and embrace value-based leadership.

‘Ishq-e-Haqiqi’

Yet the definition of love cannot be the same for everyone. Have you ever heard about the word ‘Ishq’? Words such as Ishq, Mohabbat and Ulfat depict strong emotional attachment, intense feeling or passionate love and all-consuming love. In Persian and Urdu languages, these words are synonyms of the word LOVE. In the spiritual world, Ishq is an attraction for the spiritual master to discover the real love for the Creator. This has five stages.

Come into my house, beloved—a short while!

Quicken our soul, beloved—a short while!

That from Konya radiate light of Love

To Samarqand and Bukhara a short while!

These verses of Maulana Jallaluddin (Jelaluddin) Rumi are about his dream that the light of Love (Ishq) might emit from Konya in Turkey to Samarqand and Bukhara in Uzbekistan ‘for a short while’. Rumi’s words reached everywhere from the eastern world to the Western world. In the West, Rumi’s poetry was introduced through translations by British and German Orientalists from the beginning of the 19th century.

One of the most salient aspects of Rumi’s poetry is that it fascinates his followers in both Eastern and Western worlds. Annemarie Schimmel, a German author, translator and researcher, points out in her works on Rumi that “The number of Europeans and Americans attracted by the whirling dance is growing and, year by year, Rumi’s name is becoming better known outside the Islamic world.” Annemarie Schimmel was fond of Mevlana Jallaluddin Rumi’s poetry since she was a young girl. The learned scholar passed away in the German city of Bonn in 2003.

Mystical love

In spirituality, the Real Love (Ishq-e-Haqiqi) is the Love of God. How can love be explained? “The intellect attempting to convey it (love) is like an ass in the morass, and the pen that is to describe it breaks into pieces,” this is how Rumi talks about love at the very beginning of his Mathnavi. Love is discovered in Jallaluddin Rumi’s magnificent odes (ghazals), the quatrains (rubaiyat) and his poetical didactic work captured in the six books of the Mathnavi, which comprises about 26,000 verses in Persian.

Investigating Rumi’s ishq (the Persian word for love) for the wandering dervish Shamsuddin or Shams-i- Tabriz (The Sun of Faith)—Shams became Rumi’s spiritual master and mystic companion— is a divine journey of rewarding experience. Apart from being one of the greatest mystics, scholars and theologians of the 13th century, Rumi’s poetic art and his contribution toward the development of Sufism cannot be undervalued.

Since the spark of love entered my heart

Its fire devoured all else

I set aside books and intellect,

And learnt poetry, songs and chorals.

The verses are from Rumi’s Rubai’yyat -E, 327 a5.

But how did Jallaluddin become Rumi? Where did he come from? What was his experience of love? How and when did he meet Shamsuddin or Shams-i- Tabriz? What did Shams pass on to Rumi?

For Afghans and Persians, Rumi is Jallaluddin Balkhi. He was born on September 30, 1207, in Balkh, Afghanistan. At the time Balkh was part of the Persian Empire. The name Rumi stands for “from Roman Anatolia.”Somewhere around 1215 or 1220, Jallaluddin departed to Konya, Turkey, to escape the threat of the invading Mongols. According to world renowned poet and Rumi expert Coleman Barks, Jallaluddin’s father, Bahauddin Walad, was a jurist, theologian and mystic.    

On 30 October 1244, Rumi is said to have met Shamsuddin, who, according to the mystic tradition, put a question to him of such challenging force that Rumi fainted from shock. Shams changed Rumi’s life forever. Legend has it that one day, while Rumi was busy reading near a water body; Shams stopped by Rumi and asked him a question: “What are you doing?” Perhaps because of his immense knowledge of theology and poetry, Rumi answered with a sense of pride: “Something you cannot understand”.

Neglectful of secrets of divine love, Rumi did not know what was to follow. Shams moved closer to Rumi and threw all the books that he was reading into the pool. Infuriated, Rumi took the books out of the water body with great difficulty. To his utter surprise, all his books were dry. They were not left damaged by water. They were not wet. Embarrassed, Rumi asked dervish Shams:

“What is this?”  

“Something you cannot understand”.

This chance engagement with Shams set the tone for the discovery of ‘Ishq-e-Haqiqi’ (the real love) for Rumi. Almost immediately after teaching Rumi ‘The Forty Rules of Love’, Shams disappeared from the scene. This absence made Rumi find Shams. Fused into love for his dervish and secrets of divine love, Rumi did not know what was happening to him. He listened to music, whirled around in ecstatic dance and recited verses. Finally Shams was sighted in Damascus (Dimishq). ‘Dimishq’ rhymed with the word for love ishq.

To know more about the mystic love, Elif Shafak’s novel The Forty Rules of Love could be a good beginning. Shafak, a French born Turkish writer, talks about the two parallel narratives in her novel. The second narrative is Sweet Blasphemy, about Shams of Tabriz, who sees the vision of his death and realises he must find a worthy spiritual companion to whom he can deliver his spiritual learning and knowledge to.


Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.
— Rumi

How will you describe love? What has been your experience of love? How has love transformed you?

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*Credit- The visual content featured in this newsletter comprises of Indian Miniature paintings from the series Barahmasa, depicting the timeless seasons of love.

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